You are sitting at a table, across from a beautiful woman you would love to be
dating and it totally hits you hard like a smack across the face.
She's never going to date you.
She is never going to see you as anything but her guy friend she hangs out with every now and again and maybe play flirts with a little bit and that's about all that you can hope for.
She's talking about some guy she met at a club and you can tell by the way that
she talks about him, she likes him. You can tell that she likes him a lot.
You know what this means because you have had to deal with this before. Too many times before.
It means, if things go the way that she wants them to go - she is going to be dating him.
Yeah, here you are, the guy who would give her the world if you could and that
jerk she talked to for 10 minutes one night at a club has a better chance of
dating her than you do. It's unfair. It's not supposed to be like this.
You know from past experience, though, that this is the way that it is.
You wonder to yourself, "how did I end up in the friend zone?"
How did you get to where some random guy she barely knows has a better chance of dating her than you do?
The bill comes and like always, you reach out for it. You always pay for lunch or dinner when you hang out with her. Only now, it begins to become a little bit clearer.
You might just be her meal ticket.
How bad is that?
You'd fall in love with her in a moment and she just likes to have a bit of
conversation with you (usually about another guy) and get a free meal out of the deal.
You want to know why you are in the friend zone?
Because you allowed yourself to be there. You might not have done it
consciously. You might not have though to yourself that you were going to go into the friend zone with her, but you are still the one that put yourself there.
That's one thing that you are going to have to admit to yourself.
You are going to have to admit that it is because the way you acted around her
that she put you in the "never going to date him" category in her mind.
The good thing is that when you can admit that to yourself, you can pull yourself out of the friend zone. You can stop being the guy who foots the bill for lunch and dinner and who is an ear for her conversation about guys she likes.
Guys who are NOT you.
If you are willing to do that, to put an end to all of the things that you really don't want to do but keep doing because you like her, then you have a good chance of turning things around with her.
Here is the clearest explanation for why you end up in the friend zone:
You think that is the "secret" to winning her over.
But, ask yourself, how many times has that worked out for you?
And when you come up with that answer, ask yourself, how many times has it NOT
worked out for you?
My guess is that it doesn't work out way more often than it does work out, if it ever has.
That alone should be more than enough to make you consider the idea of changing things up a bit.
If you can change the way that you act around a woman ... you can stop the insanity and never have to deal with the friend zone ever again.
dating and it totally hits you hard like a smack across the face.
She's never going to date you.
She is never going to see you as anything but her guy friend she hangs out with every now and again and maybe play flirts with a little bit and that's about all that you can hope for.
She's talking about some guy she met at a club and you can tell by the way that
she talks about him, she likes him. You can tell that she likes him a lot.
You know what this means because you have had to deal with this before. Too many times before.
It means, if things go the way that she wants them to go - she is going to be dating him.
Yeah, here you are, the guy who would give her the world if you could and that
jerk she talked to for 10 minutes one night at a club has a better chance of
dating her than you do. It's unfair. It's not supposed to be like this.
You know from past experience, though, that this is the way that it is.
You wonder to yourself, "how did I end up in the friend zone?"
How did you get to where some random guy she barely knows has a better chance of dating her than you do?
The bill comes and like always, you reach out for it. You always pay for lunch or dinner when you hang out with her. Only now, it begins to become a little bit clearer.
You might just be her meal ticket.
How bad is that?
You'd fall in love with her in a moment and she just likes to have a bit of
conversation with you (usually about another guy) and get a free meal out of the deal.
You want to know why you are in the friend zone?
Because you allowed yourself to be there. You might not have done it
consciously. You might not have though to yourself that you were going to go into the friend zone with her, but you are still the one that put yourself there.
That's one thing that you are going to have to admit to yourself.
You are going to have to admit that it is because the way you acted around her
that she put you in the "never going to date him" category in her mind.
The good thing is that when you can admit that to yourself, you can pull yourself out of the friend zone. You can stop being the guy who foots the bill for lunch and dinner and who is an ear for her conversation about guys she likes.
Guys who are NOT you.
If you are willing to do that, to put an end to all of the things that you really don't want to do but keep doing because you like her, then you have a good chance of turning things around with her.
Here is the clearest explanation for why you end up in the friend zone:
You think that is the "secret" to winning her over.
But, ask yourself, how many times has that worked out for you?
And when you come up with that answer, ask yourself, how many times has it NOT
worked out for you?
My guess is that it doesn't work out way more often than it does work out, if it ever has.
That alone should be more than enough to make you consider the idea of changing things up a bit.
If you can change the way that you act around a woman ... you can stop the insanity and never have to deal with the friend zone ever again.